If you walk the path of Transformational Love, you will inevitably be asked to give up the thing that you hold most dear. You are certain you could never live without this thing or person or mindset or protective layer, and in essence you will be right- you cannot live as you are living now without it.
Transformational Love will ask you (sometimes in a way that feels like force or abandonment) to let go of that thing and be fully immersed in the loss; to walk through hell and experience a death of self that can not survive its own sacrifice.
It is in the sacrifice and the dying that we are Transformed fully into Love. We become the thing that we could not live without, and we learn that death is not the end of everything, only the end of everything we think we know.