Calm to the Core, Recap 4

  • You, Yourself, as much as anyone else in the universe deserve your love and affection. - Buddha // Self-care can be a confusing term. The meaning seems simple enough, and yet the application of it can be difficult to decipher or apply in our lives on any kind of regular basis. People use the term self-care to describe yoga & smoothie recipes just as often as they apply it to ice cream & binge-watching Netflix.

 

  • Our feelings are not always a reliable guide for what we actually need. Most of the time, the thing itself isn't a bad thing, but any good thing can be used to an unhealthy extreme. If we're stressed and triggered, we will often reach for something the help us numb the pain instead of an act of self-care to help us process the pain. Three Ways to Identify Self-Care: Self-Care is less about DOING and more about NOTICING.  Self-Care will ADDRESS instead of AVOID.  Self-Care is a NECESSITY not a REWARD.

 

  • Self-care isn't always self-motivated.  There are times when we're having a rough day, or are feeling overwhelmed by stress or triggers, that we just need someone to tell us what to do so we can get back on track. Click this link to use an Interactive Self-Care Guide in those moments when you know you need something, but you don't quite know what you need.

 

  • When we look at self-care with the eyes of oneness, we can see that caring for ourselves, and working on becoming the best version of ourselves that we can be, creates radical and powerful changes for the entire world. One of the biggest reasons that many of us forgo self-care is that we're trying to take care of everyone and everything else around us. It can be hard to focus on ourselves when we know that there are others going through a rough time, or are barely scraping by in the world.  "Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." - Audre Lorde
Wild Geese


You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about your despair, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
— Mary Oliver

Let Mary Oliver read Wild Geese over you as a benediction.